So what should we do? When emotions are exacerbated, pressed into action by circumstances, it is at this time that we must slow down. Take a step back, breath deep and wait. Act like everything is normal. Ask to be excused for a few minutes. Remove yourself from the situations. Disengage for a time.
Once we have been able to digest and work out the emotions then we make decisions or react.
I will confess that many a time in my misunderstanding and impatience, i have messed up, often at the detriment to those around me.
Today, I am reminded that before the pain, emotions or critical situations i will find myself in, I must make up my mind before hand what boundaries and actions are allowed. If not, i will end up crossing lines or saying things that will cause me to meet regret head on, again.